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Last month I celebrated my 45th birthday. It was a fun and relaxing weekend.  My Husband and Daughter took me out to lunch that Sunday, and I took the day off for my actual birthday which was Monday.  My Friends Dana, Stacy and Deb took me wine tasting. My Friend Pam was unable to make our excursion but surprised me with a bottle of wine when I showed up.  We had a fabulous lunch at Renzoni Winery.  The weather was perfect, and we were able to enjoy pizza, salad, and cheese tray on the patio.  It was nice to let our hair down and catch up on our lives.  My Hubby and Daughter spoiled me with a new wine opener and a Starbucks gift card.  I must say, the best gift of all was the surprise cake my Husband bought for me!  I love Nothing Bundt Cakes, and one was waiting for me when I got home.  It was so thoughtful of him!  

I re-read the post I wrote last year when I turned 44 “Midlife birthdays are different”.  I wanted to see if anything had changed, or what if anything stayed the same.  The most significant take away this year was being thankful for what I have versus being upset or disappointed that I’m not where I feel I “should” be at this point in my life.  I took a break from blogging because I didn’t think that I could do it.  I felt that I was writing to a non-existent audience.  This is the toughest obstacle to blogging.  I decided to take a month off, and that month turned into six months.  In my absence, I noticed that people were still finding and reading my blog posts.  I had to remember that I started this for a reason: To have an outlet for my thoughts and to reach other midlife women and connect in some way.  I have done that, and I am grateful.   

As Women we need to let go of the expectations we hold for ourselves

It’s detrimental when we have the belief that we “have” to be a certain way.  We “have to” wait on our family hand and foot.  We “have to” put off our dreams because we don’t have time.  These thoughts are nonsense!

I started my facebook group, and even though it’s still a work in progress; I enjoy interacting with the ladies as much as I can.  I am receiving new member requests, and that is providing me the opportunity to reach out to even more midlife ladies!  In the last year, my Husband and Daughter have been busy with their daily lives.  My Husband got a promotion and had been working and traveling more.  My Daughter is in her senior year of high school and is trying to stay on track while dealing with the college admission process.  Instead of being sad that our daily lives are changing; I’m using this time to fill the void by doing more things for myself.  My close group of friends and I plan monthly outings; I’m reading more, and I started my Friday night bowling league for the summer!  I’ve been planning get-togethers for the summer months with my girlfriends, and hope to start up my podcast again.  

I am choosing to look ahead, and not concentrate on the past.  I have learned a lot over this past year, and I’m looking forward to what the future will hold for me.  I am thankful for not only seeing another birthday, but having a supportive family, and beautiful friends in my life.  Living in the moment and being grateful for all of my blessings is such a wonderful place to be!  Dwelling on getting older doesn’t do any good.  Wishing we were more than who or what we are doesn’t either.  We are each on our paths, and we must embrace them to the fullest.  If there is something that we aren’t happy with, we need to decide to change it.  The worst thing we can do in our middle years is live with regrets.  Remember, this is the second half of our lives!  What we didn’t accomplish before, can be achieved now!  As the saying goes; If at first, you don’t succeed, try, try again.

Until next time……

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